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Too late now to say sorry?




It’s not on the list of the most looked up words in the Merriam-Webster Dictionary (the list is updated every week), nor is it contending for the title of Word of the Year 2017. Even so, it has everything to do with words like feminism and www.dictionary.com’s winner complicit.        
The recent scandals involving top entertainment execs and high-ranking government officials hold not just the perpetrators accountable but also the organizations and associations that have turned a blind eye to many issues involving women in the workplace and in society as a whole. These big guns who wielded their power for personal (personal being sexual here) gain and made women on the verge of a new career or in quest of getting ahead, succumb the mental and psychological torture situations of abuse may cause.     My focus here is how saying sorry is the “right thing” to do but there is no guarantee that the guilty parties are actually ashamed of their acts and will make every effort that it does not happen again. 
You do something wrong – as grave as it might be – you go public and say how much you regret what you did, often accompanied with external signs of remorse and consternation and doused in tears and hiccups, and then it’s “back to your regularly-scheduled program.” It's business as usual, another day in Paradise. Or not.


The desire to make amends seems truly genuine, at least until the cameras are off or the story has been published. A behavior expressed in songs like Take a Bow from Rihanna, Same Mistake by James Blunt and Sorry by Justin Bieber. Here are some excerpts from each song:
    
Take a bow – Rihanna 
And don't tell me you're sorry cause you're not
Baby when I know you're only sorry you got caught

Sorry – Justin Bieber
I know you know that I made those mistakes maybe once or twice
By once or twice I mean maybe a couple a hundred times
So let me, oh let me redeem, oh redeem, oh myself tonight
Cause I just need one more shot at second chances. 

James Blunt – Second chance
Give me reason, but don't give me choice
Cause I'll just make the same mistake again

Sorry doesn’t head the “ranking” of the top words of the year, but it can be the direct result of persisterhood and the mantra “reclaiming my time”, the latter reflecting a stronger self-drive in women and a more intensified campaign to stand ground and make the guilty ones “fess up”. 

Which is harder - saying sorry or accepting the apology?     

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